Neighborly Perceptions

Yesterday I had a bunch of errands to run since Michael and I laid around all weekend doing nothing. My back has prevented me from continuing on with my chefery. I started to think about other career paths in the meantime. Vlad had mentioned to me how I would be great in real estate. So I thought about it and did some research. It didn't seem particularly interesting to me, but I thought I would at least talk to someone about it. I have a friend Mike who works for D.R. Horton. So I swung in his office and questioned him about his job, earning potential, enjoyment, etc. The conversation quickly shifted.

Mike: So what's up with you and Vlad?
Nina: What do you mean?
Mike: Are you guys having a fling?
Nina: No. We are just good friends.
Mike: Have you thought about having a fling with him?
Nina: No......

You can see where this conversation is going. After much inquisition I convinced him everything was on the up and up. I good see the" o.k. she's a good girl" look come back to him. Now Mike is a nice guy. It probably took a lot for him to ask me about that. Quite frankly, I'm glad he asked rather then jump to conclusions. This brings me to my point. Why are people's perceptions so out of whack and almost always leaning toward the negative?

Why is so hard to believe that everything is normal? Why is it so hard to believe that Michael and I communicate and are honest with each other? He knows everything that goes on with Vlad. I hide nothing from Michael. We are two people who are in love. We both respect each other. We are polar opposites sometimes. I am interested in totally different recreational hobbies, current events, and subjects than Michael. Does that mean he or I must give up something? No, of course not. Being in a relationship is about growing and changing together and as individuals. I would never want to stand in the way of his pursuit to change, learn, or grow. I expect the same.

What I am starting to learn is that a lot of people are married for the wrong reasons or to the wrong person. It has been a long while since I have seen two people who were happy and totally themselves. That is based on speaking with people, not on perceptions. Sometimes the truth is just boring. So I am truly sorry to inform you there are no juicy tid bits to spill about this neighbor here.