As requested....reaction when my mom realized I was sexually active

So here I go. Let me first state that there are two reactions. One when they realize you have had sex and one when they realize you are having sex on a regular basis.

My parents got divorced when I was really young. As long as I can remember it's just been my mom and me. We have a very different relationship. She holds a degree in psychology. We always talked about what I was feeling or thinking except for anger, but that's a different post. So I had a really open household. My mom was an alcoholic so we moved a lot. I got shuffled around a ton. After attending my freshman year in Albuquerque at my dads, I went home to my mom in Indiana. We had just moved from Florida. My mom rented a very cramped apartment for us. When we pulled up I saw this over weight kid on the corner. She told me to get out and ask him what time the bus picked up. I didn't want to. No choice though. So I got out and asked him in my twangy accent. He thought it was cute and we became friends.

Ray was one of my best friends. He had a similar story. We became very close and after a few boyfriends he distanced himself from me. I didn't know why. Later that year he broke his ankle in the football game. We had the same history class and the teacher found out we lived near each other. I got stuck with taking him all his shit everyday after school. Seeing him again was like remembering how much fun we had together. After a while he told me he loved me. I told him I loved him too, but not like that. Things just got really out of hand. I felt like he guilted me into sleeping with him, not that it was his fault. I felt like he was so great and nice to me. I kind of did it to repay him. I also wanted to do it so he would quit bugging me about it. It was all we talked about anymore. I just wanted things to be normal. Also I should say I was curious too.

Well it happened. Ray got crazy talking about futures. Looking back now it was really sweet. I had safe sex, but was so paranoid when my period didn't come right on time. I told my mom I had sex with him and I was late. I told her I was safe, but I was worried. Keep in mind this happened two days before my 15th birthday. I was way too young to be making those kind of decisions. My mom tried to approach me in a calm manner to make me comfortable. She was visibly shaken and angry. Instead of yelling at me we tried to work on it together. Of course I got grounded and lots of other crap. Guilt trips out the ass. All and all I think she did a pretty good job dealing with the situation at hand.

I only had sex with Ray once. It ruined everything I hoped it would change. He wasn't speaking to me any more and the whole football team thought I was easy.

After Ray I fell in love. I mean madly deeply in love. I took the virginity of this one though. I told my mom I was having sex and that I thought I needed to get on the pill. She was aware what was going on, but never took me to get the pill. We used the pull out method and condoms. I had sex a lot. She knew. She never got really mad, but also never said it was o.k. You see I was really responsible. I made straight A's, worked since I was 13, and took care of her most of the time. I guess she felt like I was going to do it anyway and that she knew I would be responsible about it.

I was too. She had talked to me about sex and reproduction even before Ray. I was well prepared for the most part. She probably handled it in the right way for me. I never snuck out or lied to her. I was always honest and forthcoming. I would have done it whether or not she approved of it. I personally believe that your parents have every right to react when you are a minor. There comes a certain time when it is just none of their damn business. The good thing about my experience is that if I chose to I could still talk to her about it.